By Jess Stonefield

The older we are, the wiser we get—and the more wisdom we have to share with those around us. We know how to do things correctly. We know how to get things done faster. We don’t want our kids to make the same mistakes we did. We want them to marry the right people, get the right job, choose the right stocks. We can help fix other people’s lives, obviously. And if we’re retired, we have even more time to do it.

Enter:  over-functioning.

I first heard the term “over-functioning” in the book, The Emotionally Healthy Woman by Geri Scazzero. (Guys: don’t be fooled. Men can be over-functioners, too.) What is it? It’s taking on the weight of everyone’s problems as if you’re the only one who can solve them. Think of it like a God-complex for everyday life. Over-functioners are good at many things—but we find it nearly impossible to watch someone else’s life ungracefully unfold.

If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “I got this,” “I’m good,” or even “mind your own business” from your family or friends, chances are good you’re over-functioning. Yes, you’re very helpful. You’re great at showing, educating, inspiring, convincing, and supporting. You can remind … inquire on behalf of … keep issues front and center … worry about someone else’s “stuff,” all while battling your own. You mean well. But over-functioning isn’t good for your relationships or your health. [Read more…]

Women get a lot of stick for having so many different pairs of shoes, but… when you really think about, there’s a good reason for that. The weather will have a lot to say in what type of style you choose on a day-to-day basis, and so will your overall look and the outfit you choose. So, in all honesty, women need at least ten different shoe styles in their wardrobe to ensure they are prepared for everything… and anything. We say ten because that is what we managed to narrow it down to. We tried, but we couldn’t narrow it down any further – these styles are simply must have.

1. The Ballet Flat

These are the shoes you say women of all ages wearing on a daily basis. They slip right on, they’re comfortable, and they go with pretty much any style of outfit. Not to mention the fact that they are available in a wide range of colours and patterns. Whether you feel like going with an animal print or a simple pair or black ballet flats, your wardrobe needs them.

2. The Sandal

You can go with straps or you can still to the classic thong look, whatever floats your boat. As long as your boat is floating along with a slick pair of sandals. These aren’t a want. They aren’t a nice to have. They are a must! Where would you be without your favourite sandals?

3. The Tall Boot

Knee-high, thigh-high… however high you want – as long as you have a nice pair of tall boots to turn to in times of need. They are ideal for winter and pair well with a long coat and a shorter dress or skirt. It’s a regal look that even Anna Wintour adores. [Read more…]

Maintaining an active lifestyle is good for people of all ages. For seniors, staying active can bring a number of benefits. These include strength and balance improvement; better mood and feelings; lowered risk of stroke, heart disease, type 2 diabetes and certain types of cancer; enhanced ability to learn, think and make decisions; and enhanced appreciation of one’s self.

Many seniors suffer from boredom as a result of isolation or health conditions that may limit their ability to be active. This issue shouldn’t be treated lightly. Isolation affects both physical and mental well-being, and can be a precursor to depression.

Luckily, there are a number of ways for seniors to stay active and achieve a healthy lifestyle. Here are some great ideas to learn and explore on how to stay active as a senior.

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My grandmother is the only person I know of who prides herself on “hands-free” living. She defines this as having both of her upper extremities available for her use at any given time in her day…or night…living.

No, Gran is not paralyzed or otherwise infirmed. She simply does not ascribe to being shackled to an electronic device.

I find it remarkable that she can open her blinds, unlock her door, and yes, even feed her cat without WiFi assist. My parents can’t even do that!

She even still frequents the local postal service to purchase a few of those antiquated stamps which she then affixes to a (…yes…) handwritten letter to someone that she has deemed worthy of hearing from her. [Read more…]