Tips To Stay Sexually Active In Senior Age

Updated on February 21, 2020

Sex right now is not the same as it was when you were twenty or forty years old. Funny enough, a lot of people mistakenly believe that there is no room for satisfying sex life once you get older. However, according to the latest survey, approximately 40% of seniors in the United States are sexually active. 

If you want to improve your sex life or maintain your sex drive, here is what you need to know about staying sexually active in senior age:

Accepting the changes

Physical changes caused by aging directly affect your sex drive and performance in bed. Older women may notice some changes in their intimate parts- vagina walls become thinner, and there is less vaginal lubricant, which makes penetration more painful. Men also experience erectile dysfunction (ED), also known as impotence. 

So, the first thing you should do is to accept these changes. It’s important to speak about them to your partner, especially if you had a break from sex in your relationship. 

Also, consider seeing a doctor in order to ask how to make sex easier in your case. It is not a secret that some surgeries, illnesses, medicines, and disabilities affect seniors’ ability to have sex and enjoy it to the fullest. Your doctor can read your medical history and suggest individual treatment. For instance, an occupational therapist can strategize comfortable sex positions for patients with chronical injuries.

It goes without saying that you need to find a doctor you feel comfortable with. To stay sexually active in senior age, you will need professional recommendations, and to get them, you have to be 100% honest.

Sharing your needs

For some people, it might be difficult to talk about sex and their sexual fantasies. The stigma around this topic might be the same in the elderly. However, you should understand that you will be able to make a change only once you have an honest conversation with your partner about your sex life.  

Consider expanding your definition of sex. You can start by touching and kissing, for instance. These small things can bring you pleasure and even help to put the sexual spark back. It’s crucial to give your partner and yourself some time. Also, make sure to avoid putting pressure on yourself – sex is all about pleasure. So, if you need an hour or two for the foreplay, go for it! 

Sexologists recommend changing the routine in order to spice things up between you and your partner. To do that, consider changing the place, the time, or sex positions. 

Exploring your sexuality

If your partner is not interested (or not able) in trying to improve your sex life or you are alone at this point in your life, consider solo sessions.

It can be as pleasurable as sex with someone. To explore your sexuality, you may need some props, such as sex toys, if you don’t know much about how to choose and take care of adult toys, read these guides

Using toys while watching erotic videos will help you to explore the art of masturbation. The best thing is that you can take your time and take a dive into wildest fantasies – no one will judge you for that. 

If you don’t really know where to start and how to achieve intense orgasm, consider seeing a sex therapist in order to get some advice that can be applicable in your situation. 

Masturbation and honest conversation with a therapist or a trusted friend can help you to increase your sex drive and get back in the game. 

Staying healthy

It’s never too late to start taking care of your health. If you want to live longer and maintain an enjoyable sex life solo or with your partner, make sure to follow these simple rules:

1. Check your health regularly, especially if you take prescription medications.

2. Get started with exercise.

3. Cut back on drinking.

4. Quit smoking.

5. Consider using medication in case you have erectile dysfunction.

6. Maintain a healthy eating lifestyle.

The bottom line

Sex shouldn’t stop as you get older. Indeed, people might have a different understanding of sex and its importance in life. However, if you and your partner are on the same page about this, you are super lucky! 

To improve your sex life, make sure to talk to your partner honestly, addressing all the problems you might have. You can always start exploring your sexuality on your own. Don’t hesitate to watch erotic videos and use sex toys in order to master the art of masturbation. Maintain a healthy lifestyle and enjoy your sex life to the fullest!


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