Losing a parent is one of the most challenging experiences in life. On top of the emotional turmoil, there’s the wrenching task of cleaning out their home. It’s an overwhelming process, but it must be done. With planning and support, it becomes an opportunity for healing. Here are a few essential tips for cleaning after the death of a parent.
Start With a Plan
Before you begin, chart out how to approach the job. Decide which areas of the house need the most attention and which items you should keep, donate, or discard. Make a checklist to stay organized and avoid overlooking anything. If you’re facing a hoarding situation, it might be a good idea to hire professional services. However, in most circumstances, it’s best to do it yourself and use the opportunity to deal with your feelings of loss by remembering the good times.
Gather Supplies
There will likely be cleaning supplies in your parent’s home, but you may face the likelihood of minimal supplies and expired cleaning products. Make a trip to the store for cleaning supplies, including boxes, trash bags, gloves, disinfectants, and possibly a paper shredder for sensitive documents. Double or triple what you buy if several people are helping you. Having all your supplies ready beforehand will make the process smoother.
One Room at a Time
Yes, it’s an overwhelming task, but try not to think of it as one big job. Break it down into smaller, manageable parts. Focus on one room at a time, and complete each room before moving on to the next. This will give you a sense of accomplishment and keep you motivated.
Enlist Help
Don’t hesitate to ask friends or family members for help! Having someone to share the load provides emotional support and makes the process quicker. If you have several siblings, divide and conquer by handling individual rooms. Agree on what you should save and what you can donate or throw away. Preserve sentimental items that likely hold memories, like photographs and other heirlooms. Create a designated box for these cherished items, then discuss who gets to keep what. Stay in touch!
Dispose of Hazardous Materials Safely
Certain items, such as medications and cleaning agents, are hazardous and require special disposal methods. Electronic waste (old computers, TVs, and cell phones) contains hazardous elements and should be disposed of by special waste handlers. Likewise, medications can pose dangers if tossed out or flushed. Consult the local pharmacy or inquire about how hospitals dispose of medical waste.
Take Care of Yourself
Cleaning out a parent’s home is a physical and emotional task. Take regular breaks, stay hydrated, and don’t forget to eat. Also, it’s okay to step away and come back another day if it becomes too overwhelming.
Cleaning after the death of a parent is a challenging task. However, with these tips, it can become a meaningful part of the grieving process. Remember to take it one step at a time.