5 tips for harnessing confidence even when you’re anxious

Updated on March 14, 2021

As we get further in life it can sometimes be nerve-wracking to adapt to new situations and environments. Ever heard of the phrase ‘Each to their own?’ It’s obvious that every single person on earth is different and has different needs, but the type of personality we have can affect our lives more than we may realise. There are 16 different personality types according to the Myers’ Briggs assessment, divided into 4 core areas – Extraversion/Introversion, Sensing/Intuition, Thinking/Feeling, and Judging/Perceiving. Check out our tips below for harnessing confidence even if you’re not an extrovert. 

Broaden your horizons 

The more time you spend with people the more they will rub off on you. Learning from others is an easy way to pick up new skills and habits and will help bring you closer to friends, family, and colleagues. If the latest iPhone has you in a tizzy, why not spend time learning how to use a certain piece of technology with the grandkids?

Fake it ‘till you make it 

The more you act like you are confident, the more confident you will feel. There are two personality types that are classically the most assertive – ENTJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) and ENTP (Extroverted Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving). Both ENTJ and ENTP’s strengths and weaknesses mean that others can learn a lot about self-possession from them. Spending a little time with friends who belong to extroverted personality groups will leave you feeling more sure of yourself in no time!

Recognise your potential

It’s easier to remain static in behaviour the older we get. Typically, we get caught in our comfort zone and find it harder to adapt to changes, even if they may bring more positivity in your life. Take a step back and work out what areas of your life are flourishing. If you harness that energy and apply it to the parts of your life that could do with a helping hand you’ll be on your way to being a more well-rounded person. 


Try saying yes to every opportunity thrown your way. Your other half wants to try a new restaurant? Say YES! Your kids want you to go camping with them? Say YES! Always wanted to turn your hand to writing? DO IT! If you push your boundaries you’ll learn something new and may even find a new passion or hobby in the process. 

Stop any self-sabotage 

Those who are more Introverted and Feeling types can often be hard on themselves and spend time reflecting on any negative traits they may have. This behaviour often self-destructive thoughts and exacerbates a lack of confidence. Instead, focus on all of the good you can do and understand that every person is different and unique. What makes you different is what makes you special, don’t hold yourself back!

Have you taken the Myer’s Briggs test? Drop a comment below to let us know how you live according to your personality type!


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